The Theory Behind Active Parenting
The Active Parenting
model is heavily based upon the theories of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs ("Adlerian Psychology").
Some of the core concepts
of this theory are:
is goal directed.
are social beings, so to understand behavior think about the
effect of the behavior on others; especially important is the
behave according to their own subjective view of reality, so
to understand others, including children, you have to put yourself
in their shoes.
respect between people is a cornerstone of life in a democracy.
This includes men and women, races, ethnic groups, and between
parents and children.
are holisticmore than the sum of their parts. Even so,
there is an emphasis on cognitive-behavioral approaches to change.
both nature and nurture (genes and environment) both play a role
in shaping human behavior, the larger emphasis is on personal
choice and responsibility.
Adlerian Psychology is a psychology of use, not possession. In
other words, it is less important what you have than with what
you DO with what you have.
Parenting skills that
derive from these concepts and that are taught in Active Parenting
are described as an "authoritative approach" (as opposed
to autocratic and permissive) and include such methods as natural
and logical consequences, recognizing the goals of behavior,
family meetings and problem solving skills, the importance of
encouragement and much more.
Dr. Popkin has extended
the Adlerian model with the creation of such tools as the "think-feel-do"
cycle, the positive and negative approaches to the four goals
of behavior, the FLAC method of discipline, the importance of
relationship building through "family enrichment activities,
and the self-esteem spiral.
In addition, Active
Parenting includes communication theory evolving from the work
of Carl Rogers, Robert Carkuff and others that are used to teach
active listening, empathy for others, feeling recognition and
problem-solving. These skills are taught under the title "Active
Communication" and are the perfect compliment to the cognitive-behavioral
model of Adlerian psychology.
For more information
about Adlerian Psychology, check the web page of the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology
(NASAP) and the AdlerPedia webpage.