A hallmark of Active Parenting programs is the use of video
vignettes to illustrate common parenting problems—and solutions.
Your Cooperative Parenting and Divorce program kit contains
36 minutes of video. Parents will recognize themselves
in these realistic video scenes, and this will help them to identify
and meet the challenges facing their own families.
The children portrayed in the video are:
Rachel is a little girl whose parents are
still very angry with each other. Rachel's mother fuels the fire
with sarcasm and name-calling, and her father reacts with defensiveness
and threats of violence. Over the course of the video, Rachel's
parents learn how to defuse anger and ease communication.
Marcus is often caught between his mother's
rules and his father's desire to have fun. Both parents tend
to jump to conclusions, and Marcus takes advantage of this by
manipulating them to get what he wants.
Juan's parents are having trouble dealing
with the feelings of loss that come with divorce. His mother
is tearful when Juan leaves to visit his father; meanwhile his
father burdens him with stories of his loneliness. They can barely
speak to each other and communicate mostly through their son.
Sarah is a teenager who has developed stomach
problems due to her parents' constant quarreling. She has also
unconsiously started to mimic her parents' negative attitudes
when relating to her friends. Eventually Sarah's parents learn
how to use "I" messages to brainstorm solutions to