by Jan Tedeschi
As an Active Parenting facilitator,
its apparent to me that the programs work and that parents
clearly do not want to lose what they have gained. At the end
of the six weeks, parents repeatedly ask me, Now that we
get it, how do we maintain it?
The desire to enjoy parenting led parents to design a graduate
group that enables them to maintain their skills. Support, guidance,
acceptance, serenity, wisdom, and gratitude in parenting provide
The groups run once a month and focus on consistent use of
the Active Parenting skills. Parents of Active Parenting Now
and Active Parenting of Teens combine parents of younger
children (with enthusiasm and willingness), with parents of older
children/teens (who provide experience and insight). The application
of skills to current parenting situations and continued at-home
experimentation leads to more permanent patterns of effective
parenting. Thoughts for the day, quotes, or real life situations
help illustrate valuable lessons. Parents maintain it
when they learn that what they can do can be so much more important
than what they cant do. Here are some insights from parents
in my graduate groups:
"Its great to be refreshed on what we had initially
learned, gain new insight, and incorporate it into our daily
experiences. I walk away with a new idea or thought on parenting.
Idea/problem sharing of the group participants helps us look
for solutions of successful parenting. Everyones information
is invaluable. - D.S.
Sometimes you cant see the forest through the
trees. When dealing with your own situations, you have difficulty
breaking everything down and handling it appropriately; however,
when others share their stories, it is so very clear what the
issues are, what was done right or wrong, and how to best handle
the situation. The classes have truly been enlightening. They
have enabled me to see things from a different perspective (my
childs), which in turn has helped me to deal more effectively
with them. - D.D.
Jan M. Tedeschi is an Active Parenting leader in Norwell,
Reprinted from Leader magazine.
Copyright 2005 by Active Parenting Publishers, Inc.