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"LEADER" Online: Vol. 10, No. 1

Maintain Momentum with "Graduate Groups"

by Jan Tedeschi


As an Active Parenting facilitator, it’s apparent to me that the programs work and that parents clearly do not want to lose what they have gained. At the end of the six weeks, parents repeatedly ask me, “Now that we ‘get it,’ how do we ‘maintain it’?” The desire to enjoy parenting led parents to design a graduate group that enables them to maintain their skills. Support, guidance, acceptance, serenity, wisdom, and gratitude in parenting provide the momentum.

The groups run once a month and focus on consistent use of the Active Parenting skills. Parents of Active Parenting Now and Active Parenting of Teens combine parents of younger children (with enthusiasm and willingness), with parents of older children/teens (who provide experience and insight). The application of skills to current parenting situations and continued at-home experimentation leads to more permanent patterns of effective parenting. Thoughts for the day, quotes, or “real life situations” help illustrate valuable lessons. Parents “maintain it” when they learn that what they can do can be so much more important than what they can’t do. Here are some insights from parents in my graduate groups:

"It’s great to be refreshed on what we had initially learned, gain new insight, and incorporate it into our daily experiences. I walk away with a new idea or thought on parenting. Idea/problem sharing of the group participants helps us look for solutions of successful parenting. Everyone’s information is invaluable.” - D.S.

“Sometimes you can’t see the forest through the trees. When dealing with your own situations, you have difficulty breaking everything down and handling it appropriately; however, when others share their stories, it is so very clear what the issues are, what was done right or wrong, and how to best handle the situation. The classes have truly been enlightening. They have enabled me to see things from a different perspective (my child’s), which in turn has helped me to deal more effectively with them.” - D.D.

Jan M. Tedeschi is an Active Parenting leader in Norwell, MA.

Reprinted from Leader magazine.
Copyright 2005 by Active Parenting Publishers, Inc.